I am officially completely in love with Dakota Lynn! She is beautiful! She is perfect!
Watching Coit hold her and just look at her with amazement was perfect! He loves babies so he was so gentle with her.
Addy and Noah are so in love with their baby sister and Noah didn’t want to stop holding her!
I am officially completely in love with Dakota Lynn! She is beautiful! She is perfect!
Watching Coit hold her and just look at her with amazement was perfect! He loves babies so he was so gentle with her.
Addy and Noah are so in love with their baby sister and Noah didn’t want to stop holding her!
I am officially completely in love with Dakota Lynn! She is beautiful! She is perfect!
Watching Coit hold her and just look at her with amazement was perfect! He loves babies so he was so gentle with her.
Addy and Noah are so in love with their baby sister and Noah didn’t want to stop holding her!
I am officially completely in love with Dakota Lynn! She is beautiful! She is perfect!
Watching Coit hold her and just look at her with amazement was perfect! He loves babies so he was so gentle with her.
Addy and Noah are so in love with their baby sister and Noah didn’t want to stop holding her!
I am officially completely in love with Dakota Lynn! She is beautiful! She is perfect!
Watching Coit hold her and just look at her with amazement was perfect! He loves babies so he was so gentle with her.
Addy and Noah are so in love with their baby sister and Noah didn’t want to stop holding her!
The officer who held back the crowd during George Floyd’s murder has been CONVICTED of aiding and abetting manslaughter.
The judge found former officer Tou Thao “actively encouraged his three colleagues’ dangerous probe restraint of Floyd.”
The judge also stated Thao “made a conscious decision to actively participate in Floyd’s death.”
Instead of STOPPING A MURDER, Thao chose to hold back concerned citizens and prevented rendering life saving aid.
His actions were disgusting and shameful. And now he deserves to be in prison.
JUSTICE FOR GEORGE FLLOYD! 💙
Source:@CalltoActivism Twitter
Okay, I am currently doing a review of the ClosetGate scene & usually when I do a review, I like to open up with a intro or my thoughts explaining my feelings toward the scene before I just jump right in. While I was working on my intro for my review, I found that I had a lot of thoughts about this scene & in particular, the fact that some people considered ClosetGate to be rape.
The concept that ClosetGate is rape to some people baffles the fuck out of me. I first heard about this while watching the Scandal marathon on BET. I knew that I was going to address my thoughts on this in my review of ClosetGate but as I started to type & brainstorm ideas, my thoughts exceeded way past an intro paragraph. Plus, I didn’t want to bring down the tone of my review by talking about rape in my opening so thus the reason why my thoughts have their own post.
I want to start off by saying that everyone has their own viewpoints, opinions, & feelings based off of life experiences so I’m not here to knock anyone’s views or opinions. Me, being an open mined person, I can receive anyone’s opinion if it is delivered to me the right way. I can receive it, acknowledge it, listen to it, appreciate it, & even respect it but I don’t have to agree with it. It doesn’t make us enemies or mean that we hate each other just because we don’t see eye to eye on everything. We are all different & should think differently from each other. We can agree to disagree.
Now that I have gotten that out of the way, I want to go on record & say that ClosetGate is my favorite Olitz sex scene(DeskGate is my second fave). I have watched the scene, many times & honestly don’t consider it rape AT ALL. But that’s my opinion–as an Olitz shipper, a Fitz supporter, & a Tony Goldwyn lover.
Now another person out there could have a totally different opinion from mine. They can be a Olake shipper, a Mellie supporter, or they could just not like Fitz character. When you don’t like someone(in real life or a character) EVERYTHING that they do can piss you off. You can look at that person & be like, “Why they have to breathe like that?” It is just whatever they do, annoys you.
So when I was thinking about why one would consider this scene to be rape, I put my feelings to the side & tried to look at this with unbiased eyes. I came up with a few reason why some may think this was rape(these reasons are a HUGE stretch but I’m trying to think outside of the box & outside of my own mind frame).
That is all that I could come up with. And if the scene had ended right there(where Fitz kissed Olivia), then maybe I could understand the viewpoint of someone who thought that ClosetGate was rape(& I am using this word very loosely). I still wouldn’t agree but I would understand.
Now before we go any further, lets define a few words: rape & sexual assault. Merriam Webster defines both words as
rape(noun): (1) an act or instance of robbing or despoiling or carrying away a person by force. (2) unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against the will usually of a female or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent—compare sexual assault, statutory rape.
sexual assault(noun): illegal sexual contact that usually involves force upon a person without consent or is inflicted upon a person who is incapable of giving consent (as because of age or physical or mental incapacity) or who places the assailant (as a doctor) in a position of trust or authority.
Now if any of the 4 reasons that I listed above is why some may consider ClosetGate rape, based off of the definition of rape(the part that states: an act or instance of robbing or despoiling or carrying away a person by force), I would say that I see your point–I still don’t agree to it but I see it.
But the FACT is ClosetGate didn’t end there & what happened in the next 30 seconds after the kiss negates EVERY SINGLE BIT of reasoning that what Olivia & Fitz did in that closet was Fitz raping Olivia.
After Fitz kissed Olivia for a few seconds, Olivia pushed him off of her & slapped him. After the slap, Fitz stood there looking at Olivia. Olivia looked at him & after a few seconds of contemplation, she went after him–she KISSED HIM!
Disclaimer: In the next part of this post, I might come off as being sarcastic & maybe even a little condescending but I assure you that I mean no harm. All the gifs that will be used is just my random sense of humor & sometimes gifs can express feelings that you won’t be able to just pick up on in plain text. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.
Where do I start? Maybe Fitz stepping back & allowing OLIVIA TO MAKE THE FINAL CHOICE of what was going to go down in that closet? Or maybe Olivia kissing Fitz? Both of this are very rapist/rape victim behavior on Fitz & Olivia’s part. All rapist step back & allow their victims to make the choice of if they are going to be raped or not, right? And victims normally go after their rapist with their lips, right?
I mean the traditional forms of marriage, wedding rings, & newlywed behavior has changed so why not rape behavior?
Saying that ClosetGate is rape is a form of rape myth to me.
A concept first introduced by sociologist Martha R. Burt in 1980, rape myths are defined as “prejudicial, stereotyped, or false beliefs about rape, rape victims and rapists.” (x)
Now, I know this scene isn’t that deep to connect it to actual rape or rape myth but since it has been brought to this level, I am going to take it there.
You CANNOT compare what happened in that closet to rape. If you are attempting to, then I would say you have a false belief about rape, rape victims and rapists–thus my reasoning for saying someone who believes that ClosetGate is rape is a rape myth.
Now, let’s revisit the definition of the word rape. Rape is defined as (2) unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against the will usually of a female or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent.
You can just see how Fitz forced himself onto Olivia in this gif of her jumping on him & kissing him.
Damn you Fitz! Damn you for forcing Olivia to kiss you so passionately. This & everything that has happened is ALL YOUR FAULT! You mind threatened her life. She had no choice in the matter whatsoever. Because what woman, would choose to have sex with a man who she loves just because he pulled her into a closet. This is so unheard of. An adult woman choosing to have sex? What is that? What is life? What is air?
Look at Fitz taking her panties off with force!
But wait…is that Olivia’s hands on his belt? Did she…? No, she couldn’t have undid his belt because Fitz is raping her.
Look at Fitz attacking poor little Liv’s boob. And his hands are on top of hers. He must be holding her down so that he can continue his attack
But wait…is that Olivia turning around to kiss him? Is she licking the top of his lip?….Nah, that can’t be either because then that would make this look like consensual sex between to consenting adults.
Look at Fitz attacking Olivia’s thigh! How dare he in the heat of intense sex grab a body part.
Look at Olivia, her open mouth & body jerk clearly says that she is struggling. This is not what she wants at all.
Olivia squeezing Fitz ass to pull him into her deeper….that’s rape right? Wanting the dick in you deeper…
Oh God, Olivia is expressing how much she wants him to stop with that look. What is that look? The look of PASSION, PLEASURE, & PAIN(good pain of course) maybe? Her beating on that wall tells me how much she is fighting….She’s fighting so hard. She’s fighting…the urge to scream out…
Did that come off too sarcastic?
Okay, let me get back to being serious. I am young & I don’t claim to know more than anyone else. I don’t have a vast amount of sexual experience or sexual encounters but I do know that
In my young mind, I define each differently(making love & having sex).
Making love–when I think of making love, I think of the intimate, passionate sex with lots of foreplay. This is the best form of sex. It happens when you have a connection with the person you are sleeping with. When someone who is in love makes love to their partner, they take care of all their needs, not just sexually. They will take their time by doing foreplay and making their lover feel loved. They are attentive to their partners every need and desires. Making love between two people who are in love is often slow and intimate.
Having sex–when I think of having sex, I think of sex being less passionate & intimate than making love. Sex is something that doesn’t often involve real feelings or even a committed, real relationship(I would put friend with benefits, one night stands, & even quickies under the category of sex). It is ONLY about the pleasure of the act. When people have sex, there is very little foreplay and intimacy.
[Bonus: Fucking–I think that fucking is the fraternal twin sister to sex. This is basically the same as having sex but on a rougher, harder level–I place angry sex in this category. Olivia & Fitz were definitely FUCKING in that closet.]
Now anyone who may be older & wiser that is following me or reading this, feel free to correct me if I am wrong. And help me to understand if that is not the difference but in my eyes, that is how I categorize the lovemaking & sex. Again, if I am wrong, tell me.
Now I want to get into the sex that happened in ClosetGate. I have stated above & I will say this again that ClosetGate is my favorite sex scene between Olitz. I love this scene because it has this raw, emotional(anger is an emotion too so this is not to be confused with the emotional feelings one would feel from making love) undertone to it.
Okay, I know this is getting long but just bare with me for a second as I go somewhere. Fitz & Olivia are madly in love with each, this is a fact that we know. Another fact is that just because they are mad at each other does not negate the fact that they love each other.
Fitz was coming at this whole situation from a place of pain, hurt, anger, & betrayal. Fitz is not only hurt because he had placed Olivia on this pedestal & finding out about Defiance, knocked her down a few pegs but I think the whole Defiance thing has a huge emotional undertone in it’s own right. I remember Big Gerry telling Fitz that he was never going to be president & that he didn’t deserve to be president because he was weak(or something like that). So winning the election was EVERYTHING to him. Big Gerry was emotionally & verbally abusive to Fitz & then he died without ever changing. So that win made Fitz feel like he was good enough. That he was worth it. The realization that he hadn’t actually won brought back all of those feelings that Big Gerry had drilled into him over the course of his whole life. The feeling that he wasn’t good enough. It hurt him & in return he hurt Olivia.
Olivia was coming at this whole situation from a place of pain, hurt, & betrayal. Olivia is not the type to be open about her feelings but she took a chance when she left Edison & told Fitz that she would wait for him. She took a step out in the dark on faith & love alone, only to be let down by Fitz when he told her that he had changed his mind. She was confused because at the time she didn’t know why Fitz had changed his mind. She was hurt & probably felt humiliated & alone.
Now with all of this taken into consideration comes the fact the both of these two madly in love people have not seen or spoke to each other in 10 months. Yes, it has been forever since they have had sex(I believe it was about 2 to 3 years) but even in the times when they weren’t sexually involved, they still saw or talked to each other(& I’m talking about after the whole Amanda Tanner thing–remember even after Mellie got pregnant Fitz would call her every night just to talk). This 10 month period had to be the first time in like a year, year & a half that they didn’t see or speak to each other.
I’m almost 99.9782% sure that even without being sexually intimate, the phone calls helped over the years but with no contact, these two were at way past their limits. The thing about being madly in love with someone is that you can’t just stop. Those feelings don’t just go away. No matter how mad you are at them–even if you hate them at the moment. There is no amount of time or space that is going to stop you from loving them. It could have been 10 months or 10 years, the feelings will still be there.
The sex that we saw in this closet was the 10 months of pain, hurt, anger, & betrayal mixed with wanting NEEDING, yearning, & a passionate desire to be with the one that you love–to be connected sexually to the one that you love. It was the most intense form of sexual frustration that I have ever seen.
Both Olivia & Fitz needed each other in this moment. They needed to feel each other–they needed to connect. They needed to make sure they felt ALL of each other–their pain, hurt, anger, their passion & their yearning for one another.
I felt all of that in this closet sex. This wasn’t just a great sex scene to me, this was an emotional exchange between two people in love.
I can’t change anyone’s opinion & I’m not trying to but for me, ClosetGate was definitely not rape.
I will leave you with this message.
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